I Challenge You!

I’ve started early on my Unreasonable Goals list for 2018.  I don’t know if it’s the new moon, or turning 40, or just my current vibe, but I’ve been thinking a lot about my goals and priorities. What is serving me and what is not. I may have mentioned this before, but on the little Twitter description about me it says: Mom, wife, writer, knitter, cooker, reader, eater. This may seem like a simple list, but I put a lot of thought into it at the time. This list is how I think of myself in order of importance. The things that mean the most to me. They have shifted focus a bit lately, as I’ve worked on my MFA, writer has taken up a lot of my time. That doesn’t mean that it’s more important, however.

This year I want to focus more on family, bring it to the front. However, I also have some pretty ambitious goals for myself as a writer, including graduating this July! I want to spend more quality time doing things I enjoy with people I enjoy. I have decided to attempt two, big for me, challenges for the coming year. No shopping and No Facebook.

Recently, I read the essay My Year of No Shopping by Ann Patchett.  It resonated with me deeply, and I’ve decided to design a similar challenge for myself. I haven’t quite worked out all the details, but I am looking forward to freeing up time and money.

I have posted before about giving up FB  and have yet to do it. One reason is that it keeps me connected with friends easily. However, It eats up a lot of my time. I find myself endlessly scrolling through my news feed often. It depresses me. So many good people are so upset by our current president and the state of the world in general – I am too- but do I need to read about it all day? Do I need everyone’s opinion on every little thing all the time, and do I need to respond to it? Nope. I recently discovered that you can deactivate your account, but still leave the messenger active – which solves the problem of friends staying in contact. I also will be able to update my professional page via my website. i subscribe to the NYT, checking headlines once a day is enough. I’m keeping Instagram because it’s fun and non-depressing. I think this is a good compromise.

I’m also interested in finding out if anyone else is willing to take up these 2 challenges with me? Anyone in on no shopping and no Facebook for a year? Maybe I could invite some guest bloggers to this page. Create a instagram hashtag. Let me know!



2 thoughts on “I Challenge You!

  1. Andrea

    Wow! I was just thinking about these two very same things–though not as coherently. I’m ready to completely check out next year, because staying informed and involved has been depressing and fruitless. And after spending about 7 days Christmas shopping this month, I never want to see a store again. I haven’t read the Ann Patchett essay yet, but I did a “buy nothing year ” several years ago. Maybe it’s time to do it again. I have the same reservations about FB you have–keeping up with friends and family. If only I could filter out everything but writing successes and new babies. Anyway, keep me posted. I just might join you!

    1. mommyk8 Post author

      Not sure why I’m just getting the alert for this. I just posted again about ditching FB, and will post about no shopping maybe tomorrow? The biggest problem with leaving FB, and I’m sure you will know this, is that it’s hard to promote my writing and blog without it. I’m going to have to deeply revise no shopping. First because I’ve put so many stipulations on it already that it’s kind of silly. For example, I can buy makeup and face toiletries but only when I run out. I will allow myself to buy any food go out, etc. The other thing is, I feel deeply called to support the local economy right now. Maybe I will change the goal to instead write down everything I buy so I can have a log of it at the end of the year? Not sure yet.


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